For years I would go to REI and pick up a pair of quasi hiking boots and those would be my daily shoes because they were supportive and comfortable. I am on my feet a lot going from place to place and always wanting to be prepared to take a walk at the drop of a hat. Since I already have a lot to lug around I didn’t bring a pair of so called cute shoes to put on at any point in the day.I had a list longer than the day. Taking a moment to consider how well the shoes went with anything I was wearing was unthinkable. Besides I was wearing blue jeans and my khaki uniform pants most days. Rushing around.Not evaluating what items on the agenda could be done by others or dropped totally.

Plus only having to buy one pair of shoes each year saved me A LOT of time and I didn’t have to worry about mistakes or comfort.

I kept putting myself aside, not taking the time to treat myself well. This shoe thing carried over into all the other areas of my life as well. Not taking the time to cook for myself once I became an empty nester OR the total opposite – spending all evening cooking (and drinking wine while preparing) and resenting my husband for never cooking. Letting my evening get taken up with an activity that I didn’t particularly like and ignoring the activities that would bring me joy. Denying myself.

I finally broke down and bought some heels – low heels but heels nonetheless. What I discovered is that they forced me to walk slower to slow down on my journey through the day and to occasionally kick my shoes off and sit down! What a joy!

Are you finding the time to slow down and take care of yourself and think about what brings you joy?