“Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.” -Sydney J. Harris

Photo by Mauricio Livio on Unsplash

Has your life changed in the last 20 years? How about your ideas? Your residence? What’s hanging in your closet?

Is everything you believe true? I keep exploring my “beliefs” and discover they are just my thoughts but not everyone would believe what I think (especially my husband). Here is a deep down one I didn’t even realize I had: “Fashion doesn’t matter.” Now I know that is not true because not everyone would agree it is true.  Only things everyone can agree on are true facts. I now realize it helped me justify not investing time in self care and it helped me justify not caring about what I wore or how I looked.

It kept me stagnant. And what I wore 20 years ago does not help me look the way I feel now. It actually makes me look like I am stuck in the past and it makes me look old. Even though I am technically “old” I don’t feel old and I don’t necessarily want to look old (although it could be useful when I’m trying to cross the street).

To me old is stagnant, not creating new thoughts, ideas or actions.  I was headed down that path- doing the same thing every day the way I have always done it. Including wearing the same thing I had worn for 20 years.  It isn’t comfortable to try to find new paths and my brain resists it just like society seems to resist real change. How about you? Are you stagnant or are you creating new ideas, activities and brain paths?

Need help breaking out of your style stagnation?

Clothing Detail this week – A standard collar

One way Merriam Webster defines a collar is as a band that serves to finish or decorate the neckline of a garment. A collared shirt is simply a shirt with a collar. It can be any of the collar types we have already talked about or it can be the type of collar that is commonly thought of on a man’s shirt.  Medium in width with points in the front and attached to the garment by a stand (a piece of intermediary fabric) .  When you do an online search for a collared shirt you get a variety of shirts with either buttons down the front (button down) or polos (a v-neck opening that may or may not have buttons).  If your boss has asked you to wear a collared shirt, they typically mean a button down collared shirt.

Collars are a face framing feature and one way to make them stand out is to make them from a different fabric or color fabric than the body of the shirt. Collars are decorative although they may also have a function of keeping the neck warm. Collars typically make a shirt more professional and formal than an open neckline. A polo shirt is often considered business casual even though it has a collar.

Do you enjoy the look and feel of collared shirts?

man's button down shirt

Fashion trends

Pantone 2020  versions of red

Flame scarlet, orange peel, cinnamon stick, coral pink –They sound luscious.

Do any of these colors complement you? They are your red if they match the color of your fingertip when you squeeze it, the color of your cheeks when you blush or the color of your lips. 

Reds that blend with you will be the most attractive. Which one is yours?

line drawing of inverted triangle

Style lesson

Body shape – Inverted Triangle is the opposite of a triangle (imagine that). The shoulders are larger than the hips and the waist is only slightly defined as it tapers down to narrow hips and a typically flat butt.  The guidelines for balancing out this body type is to make the hips look equal to the shoulders and make the waist visible. Ways to experiment creating this illusion include brighter or lighter or print pants with more subdued tops. You would want to avoid styles that emphasize the shoulders such as halter tops, ruffles at the shoulders, cap sleeves or a color block that had a lighter color defining the shoulders. Flared skirts and pants would also help the illusion. V neck lines, narrow lapels and items that create a vertical line down the front of the body are flattering for most.

If this is your body type which of these guidelines have you found helpful and which ones do you break on a regular basis with success? Remember these guidelines are just a place to start and breaking the rules can create some splendid results.