Conflicted?

Conflicted?

Every day there are fights in my head. Do you have those fights? These are those moments of conflict with ourselves. I’m not leaving the house. Should I bother putting on anything but sweats? There is a last piece of cake. Should I eat it? There is a networking event next week. Should I go? I have a closet full of clothes. Do I need to buy more?

Your internal conversations are probably different than mine. And the conflicts change over time. For years one of my conflicts was about exercise. How do I fit in exercise today? Or should I fit in exercise today? This one has resolved itself with age and retirement. Instead of the choice being about how do I fit it in, it has become a choice of do I want to fit it in or become an unhealthy person who can’t take advantage of the years left in my life. That makes the choice in this conflict much easier. Plus it is easier to find the time to make that choice.

Another conflict in my head over the years has been about what I wear. In middle school it was easy to make the choice to care about how I look. I had extra time in my life and there is something about that age that makes you think everything you wear looks good. Witness anyone’s middle school picture to confirm that.

As I aged I found the conflicts over what to wear changed. Once my body changed and when I became a small business owner I found I had no time and I found that I could hide by being the plant lady. My clothes are just going to get dirty so why would I dress up? Then when I had my daughter there was the excuse that I have no time. During that period in my life I never wore anything that didn’t come as a gift or that wasn’t bought at a thrift store. There was no time to shop and I never knew what to buy anyway. When I opened my closet and had nothing to wear it was a downer. I didn’t even realize how it affected my self-confidence. It cascaded down and the choices I made were never about myself. I deferred decisions and then worried about them.

The decision I made to again care and take care of myself included looking at my wardrobe and appearance. The DIY approach took a l- o-n -g time and it was painful. I am back to enjoying fashion and taking joy in what I wear and how I look. And yes I still have days where I make the decision to look like a slump for the day and that is OK. It is no longer a reflection of how I value myself but a conscious decision.

Is wardrobe on your conflict list? Make a decision to move it off your list by solving the wardrobe conundrum or deciding it doesn’t matter. Don’t let it be one of those unresolved conflicts that is keeping you stuck. I am happy to help. Give me a call.

These conflicts waste time and mental energy. Recognizing and making a decision about them will free up that space and mental energy for living.Where are you in your head talk? What conflicts have you conquered?

1950’s Sew Chic Patterns

1950’s Sew Chic Patterns

As you may have guessed this week we are going to take a look at the glamorous 1950’s patterns from Sew Chic and see which ones will fit my triangle or pear body shape. I wanted to mention one other thing about Sew Chic and Laura Nash (the designer). She gives great fit tips on her website. These body hugging clothes deserve a good fitting to truly show their design.

What works for triangles? The starter skirt if worn with the right top could be a good choice because the hemline is more flared than the hips and it is fitted in the hips and waist with a wide belt to emphasize your waist. The length is a little long to be flattering on most people. Mid knee is typically most flattering.

The phantom jacket also has possibilities since it hits below the hip line. Making it in a matching or lighter color than what you are wearing below will make it most flattering.

The spin skirt (without the ribbon at the hip line) is also a good choice for a skirt. A small print on the skirt would be a good fabric choice. A fitted top in a lighter color with some detail at the neckline would be lovely. You also should avoid the ruffled version.

Beatrice pocket dress also works because of the defined waist and the curved line on the pockets and where they are set. The neckline draws attention up to and frames your beautiful face. The Victory jacket is a bolero style jacket that would look great over a long sleeve white shirt and jeans or a form fitting sheath dress.

The Ginseng dress with a sashed waist and open neckline also frames the face and brings the focal point up. I would bring the hemline up to the knee for myself. The beautiful Averly dress has a little more detail up top and a defined waist. Another good triangle choice in the vintage line up.

 

Which of these beautiful garments would you add to your wardrobe?

 

 

Not sure what your body type is or how to dress so that you look your absolute best?

Sew Chic Pattern Co.

Sew Chic Pattern Co.

 

My local Seattle fabric store – Pacific Fabrics (the one that sells great garment fabric) recently sent out a notice about a Sew Chic trunk show. If you are interested it is at their Northgate location from 10 to noon on September 1.

I loved vintage clothes when I was younger and would find them at thrift stores and by raiding my mom’s closet. I found as I aged they didn’t look as fabulous and made me look vintage. As an experiment I browsed the collection to see what would work with my triangle body shape. The website sewchicpatterns.com is broken down into 1930’s, 1940’s and 1950’s style patterns along with several other categories.

Today let’s look at the 1930’s collection. The Myrtlewood dress is my favorite. That belt at the hip line would not work for me so alas I must move on to the other choices. The Fantasia dress moves the sash up above the waist and would be a perfect choice for a triangle. The Constance dress, Ehlen and Portrait blouses are three more fabulous choices because the details are above the hips. These beautiful styles would be perfect for a triangle.

Next week I will tackle the 1940’s collection  to see which of these great patterns I could use. Which of these 30’s patters do you like the best?

 

Time to Experiment

Time to Experiment

Does your brain ever get stuck? Mine keeps going in the same cycle of indecision and fear. Today I decided to try something new and try Fresh Paint – a Wiindows digital drawing program. I grabbed a branch of white pine that was laying in the trail and attempted to draw it. It was a bit frustrating and challenged me to look closely and observe colors. I’m pretty happy with the results. Using a pen and digital pad is not the most relaxing activity and may be better when I try it at a desk instead of sitting in a chair. I hope it helped get my brain unstuck. What helps you begin to think in new ways?

Digital drawing experiment

Are you putting yourself out there?

In January we went to a portion of the West Seattle Art Walk. We started a little late and only made it to three businesses. After the event I marveled at the way these small business owners, artists and musicians had put themselves out there, exposing themselves and bringing their gift out into the world.

Our first stop was Viscon Cellars https://www.visconcellars.com/. This small winemaker has been producing wine since 2004. I believe this tasting room on California Ave has been open since 2014. The tasting pours were presented by the owner himself. A very personable and talented wine maker Ben was enthusiastic and described in great detail the blends used to create the wines we were presented. The one I remember the most is the Rhyme/Reason Syrah which used co-fermented viognier 5% and Syrah 95%. It tasted fabulous but the reason I remember it is the fact that I had never heard of a white and a red blended together. It apparently is a technique used in France but not used elsewhere very often. I love learning something new. We went home with a bottle of viognier to go with our salmon dinner.We also bought it because of the very attractive label and the story behind it.

Artist Greta Musland http://www.gretamusland.com/ was displaying her work at Viscon. She is currently using acrylic paints on one side of the canvas and an encaustic (wax process) on the other. Her portraits of urban wild animals were delightful. She has been allowing herself to be an artist for about 10 years. I find it fascinating to consider what would happen if we all allowed ourselves to be what we want to be instead of what society, family etc thinks we should be. One CAN dare to dream.

Next stop was http://cannawestseattle.com. They were displaying beautiful photographs of a wandering traveler. The one that caught my eye was of a camel in front of a beautiful body of water with arid mountains on the other side. There was a horizantal stripe effect in the composition that was dramatic. Unfortunately I can’t tell you who the photographer was since there is no link on there website to the artist and my memory is not that good. A traveling photographer journeying to exotic locales and a cannabis company taking a chance in the current state of legal affairs are both putting themselves out there.

Final stop of the evening was at C and P Coffee where it was open mike night. We caught the last 4 performances of the evening – all guitar and vocal performances. The first one wrote their own songs and the other 3 played cover songs from a wide variety of known artists. I am so glad they shared their gift with us that night.

What is your gift? Are you sharing it and putting yourself out there or are you keeping it bottled up inside?

Today’s DIY refashion failure (at least on me) shirts into tunic

Today’s DIY refashion failure (at least on me) shirts into tunic

I started this project in November thinking it had potential for the holidays. I took this stained lace shirt and this beautiful but dated pink silk shirt to try to make something festive.

Stained white lace shirt

Pink silk shirt dated

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was wrong. At least for me.The first go round made this look like something my mother would have worn (not to knock her style – we all should rock whatever it is). Sort of tent like. And I am not really a wearer of “delicate” items which this turned out to be.

This shirt is too delicate and tent like for me

It also looked a little dated and out of style. I hung it back in the closet. Then the other day I decided I couldn’t just abandon it. I ruched the sleeves a bit and added the cuffs I cut off the shirt as pockets.

Redone shirt with cuffs as pockets

Back of shirt with lace insert

The end result looked a little cuter and trendier but it still is not my style. Any delicate and maybe younger looking women out there who can pull it off? It’s yours. My Valentine gift to you. Just reply to this post on Facebook.