How much is enough? Sweethearts, sheers and bras

How much is enough? Sweethearts, sheers and bras

What is your Enough?

Seeking inspiration for today I typed in “How much stuff is enough” to see what came up. And I found this from

Enough = the amount you can fully and regularly use.

Her actual quote was the right amount of stuff = the amount you can fully and regularly use.

What if you applied this thought to your wardrobe? How much easier would it be to make the cull?

How much easier would it be if you thought this thought while you were browsing online or shopping in a store?

Enough = the amount you can fully and regularly use.

Can you really  fully and regularly use 7 pairs of black pants or blue jeans?

This would vary from person to person based on your lifestyle. If you regularly attended fancy parties but never did your own yard work, your party dress section would be fuller than your old raggy clothes section and vice versa.

The only thought I would add to this is enough=the amount you can fully and regularly use with enthusiasm.

If you fully embrace it this thought could set you free! Apply it to everything. Imagine applying it to your spice cupboard, your grocery shopping cart, your thoughts!

Clothing detail – the sweetheart neckline

The sweetheart neckline is a very feminine looking neckline that combines a v neck with a swoopy curve. It can be as wide or narrow or deep or shallow as you like. This would create a look that could be sweet, sexy or prim and proper.

It is flattering on most everyone. It can be combined with straps of many types, sleeves or no sleeves. It is a common choice for a neckline on a wedding dress like the Justin Alexander dress from Sincerity Bridal.

Which of these sweetheart necklines would you try?

2020 Trends

Sheer layers

A see through look that like the sweetheart neckline can be presented to the world in a way that equals sexy, sweet or prim and proper.

The cut of the piece, where the sheerness lies and what you wear underneath all contribute to that final look.  I had a vintage 50’s dress with a full skirt and a large portrait collar that was made of a thin peach organza. The underlayer was a full coverage  slip with similar lines but no transparency. This dress was prim and proper but invited a certain come hither look.

Here are some variations on that look. One piece could accomplish all sorts of messages!

Molly GoddardCosmo Ruched Tulle Midi Dress from Moda Operandi worn over a dress

The same Molly Goddard dress as it is sold – I love the possibilities

This sheer fog dress from Universal Standard can go casual like this one over leggings or dress up over a slip dress with heels

This sheer sleeved blouse over an inner layer from macy’s offers the layered look in a demure fashion

Style tip

The undergarments have it

What you wear under your clothes is as important as what the outside world sees. Although if you choose to wear one of these sheer layers with only your undergarments the outside world will see all.

Let’s start today with a proper fitting bra. A great fitting bra can really help with body balance. It puts your boobs in a place where your ready to wear clothes expect them to be.

Do you know how to measure? Let’s talk about it.

Get out your tape measure. Put on an unpadded, unlined bra that doesn’t bind or isn’t a push up bra or measure nude (when nude you may not get a great measurement across your bust if you have gotten droopy – in this case make sure you are wearing the bra).

While standing straight measure around your whole body across the fullest part of your chest. Write this down.

Now measure around your whole body just under your breasts. Write this down.  This is your band size. Bras come in even numbers so if you are an odd number round up.

Subtract your band measurement from  the measurement you got across the fullest part of your chest. Use the chart below to determine your cup size. This chart is for US sizes. 

This is your starting point at the store or online. When you get it try it on. The perfect bra will include these fitting items

When you hook it, it should fit well on the first set of hooks. This helps you adjust as the bra stretches over time.


The straps shouldn’t slip or cut into your shoulders

Your breasts should fit in the cups without spilling over or having excess fabric in the cup.

It will feel good and support you.

Still having trouble? Try ordering through a web site like Third Love that offers all kinds of videos, tips and tricks or go to a store that only sells bras and get fitted.

What bra tips and tricks can you add to the conversation?




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People will stare – make it good

People will stare – make it good

“People will stare. Make it worth their while.” —Harry Winston


I love learning more about the people who are quoted. Harry Winston was an American jeweler that supplied some of the worlds most famous people with some of the world’s most famous diamonds and jewels.

I do love this quote because I have always shunned attention instead of embracing it. I can’t imagine putting on a giant diamond and being comfortable. Why would I want the attention? I also know that diamonds don’t have the cleanest labor and human rights records. But imagine having the confidence to put on one of the world’s most famous diamonds and an outfit to match. That is a goal worth achieving. That kind of confidence.

 If you want to learn more about diamonds – their manufacture, marketing, history and value, you will enjoy this podcast from 99% invisible.

Clothing detail – The V neck

V necks have a lot going for them. They automatically create a long lean look for most body types. About the only exception I can think of is if you have an abnormally long neck because this would accentuate it.  (But hey you know my motto – if you love it wear it).  Watch how deep your v goes or you may be sending a message you didn’t intend to (either way).

You can create your own V by unbuttoning the top button of a button down or simply slashing a v in your crew neck t shirt.

V necks have the potential to be a valuable staple in your wardrobe.

Knowing the proper terminology for clothing detail will make online and in store shopping for clothes easier.

layered v neck

Photo from Nordstrom Rack

Style ideas – Balance your body with color

Color plays an important role in balancing an outfit. Where the colors change in an outfit can have an impact on whether the outfit is balanced or not. The saturation and hue affect  also come into play. This is why monochromatic color schemes are the easiest to put together.

How can you use color to create the balanced look you want?  

Triangles could use a lighter, brighter or print top to draw attention up.

Inverted triangles would use that lighter or brighter color or print on the bottom.

Photo from Nordstrom

Hourglasses could use attention focusing details on the top and bottom with a dark middle to emphasize their waist . Photo from Nordstrom

Rounds could use body skimming fit, slightly higher waistline and  monochrome dressing with a brighter scarf or necklace to draw attention up.


This color block dress would be great for columns because it adds shape and a waist Photo from JC Penney

What is your favorite trick for body balance? Don’t have one yet? Drop me a line Let’s create some body balance.

Bill Cunningham, Boatnecks, The last of the Summer Colors and the Hourglass

Bill Cunningham, Boatnecks, The last of the Summer Colors and the Hourglass

Bill Cunningham at Fashion Week photographed by Jiyang Chen

“Fashion is the armor to survive the reality of everyday life.” —Bill Cunningham

 My take on this quote was quite bleak at first!

#1 needing armor to survive everyday life tells me you aren’t  quite on the right path. From what I have read about Mr. Cunningham, this simply wasn’t true. He didn’t use fashion but photographed it, wrote about it and also was a milliner early in his career. He kept his own life as simple as possible, wearing the same thing every day and riding a bicycle around New York.

After reading more about him through his obituary and Wikipedia I would be more generous. I would now conjecture that he thought fashion was useful entertainment and statement as life moved on through time. Mr Cunningham sounds like someone I would aspire to be (without the daily uniform).

How about you? Is fashion your armor?

This week’s fashion detail The Boat Neck

A boat neck is a wide  neckline  from shoulder to shoulder which sits just below the collarbones. It can be square or scooped. It draws visual attention upward so it is a good choice if you need to visually create more width on the upper part of your body and/or lengthen the look of your neck.

Grape Compote Photo from Pantone 2020 Color Trend Report

Brilliant White – Photo from Pantone 2020 Color Trend Report

Ash – Photo from Pantone 2020 Color Trend Report

2020 Trends – more summer colors

2 neutrals and a splash

This week I want to share the last of the Pantone 2020 Summer colors.  I am loving faded denim and ash because they are nice neutrals for me. Which are your favorites and how would you wear them?

Hourglass figures 

The hourglass figure is defined as being equal width top and bottom with a very defined waist.  It is the shape that the eye finds most flattering and if you have an hourglass figure your goals is to not throw it out of balance!

Suggestions include  balancing an eye catching shoulder look like a boat neck with some detail down below and then don’t hide your waist!

While we often think of the hourglass as the perfect figure, they too have challenges and can’t throw on just anything without thought. 

So with your new knowledge in hand,  embrace whatever shape you have and experiment with different looks to see what feels good to you. Remember don’t wear it unless you love it.

Drawing of an hourglass figure